Every married couple wishes for their marriage to be perfect with no problems and no arguments or fights. However this is ever rarely the case, we are all are human. You both have different thoughts and views on the way things are or should be. There are going to be arguments and hurt feelings along the way, but there is no need to panic and worry. With every problem that arises in marriage, there is always a solution.
When he gets up on the wrong side of the bed and gives you the silent treatment for no apparent reason, you gripe about it to your best friend. When you constantly nag him about fixing the leaky faucet, he complains about you to his best friend. A little venting is fine, and sometimes necessary to make you both feel better. However, too much negative talk between friends can be a bad thing, in more ways than just one. Do you really want your friends to know every single little problem that you and your spouse have? If you constantly talk about your spouse to your friends and family, they may start to think that you feel your marriage is disastrous.
Instead of talking to friends and family about problems that you have with each other, why not talk to your spouse about it? One of the most important keys to a successful marriage is open and honest communication. If you and your spouse never know how you both are feeling, then you will never know how to fix the problem. Talk about it with your spouse.
If he sighs and rolls his eyes at eyes at you for looking at another pair of shoes, or if you nod and go along with whatever he says just to avoid confrontation. As bad as it is to complain to your friends and family, it is also bad to stay silent and not say what you feel. By doing so, you risk putting up a wall of resentment that may be harder to bring down later.
The solution to this problem is simple- say what you feel, and say it when you are both relaxed; not at bedtime or when you are paying bills. Offer suggestions for both of you to solve the problem.
More often than not, picking on your spouse's possessions, such as how many pocketbooks you have or how many antique bottles your husband has, is just saying that you don't like that about them and that it needs to be changed. People are package deals, and it's unfair to demand for them to live up to your expectations just because the quirkiness bothers you. There are many things you will like, and some things you won't. But it's part of being married. Just realize that the stuff you or your spouse are bothered with is important to one of you, in which case you and your spouse will need to simply deal with it. If you are still arguing over the possessions, brainstorm about a solution such as a garage sale or giving them to the Salvation Army or Goodwill.
Lastly both of your lives are full- full of work, kids, pets, and your own interests that by the time you both go to bed, you have made no time for each other. It is extremely important in marriage to make time for each other, whether it's watching a movie by yourselves, going to dinner with no kids, or simply sitting on the porch swing and talking about the day. You have married into a partnership, and you need to treat that partnership with respect and care.